Category Archives: Family

How can we change culture? Through the grandchildren. Money does not have to be the main force, nor does system. :- Doug.

A grandchild is every one of us. An elder is here for all grandchildren, the planet, and all there is. :- Doug.

For the grandchildren is a mutual endeavor. :- Doug.

It does not matter whether this is statistically true. It matters if it is true for you, true for us. Eldering for the grandchildren is a distinctly minority activity. Just by the most important minority—those eldering for the grandchildren. :- … Continue reading →

An advantage grandparents have over parents: distance, perspective, long-view. We do not need to deal with the immediacies of injuries, illness, discipline, and paying the bills: we can be mentors, friends, confidants. :- Doug.

Elders are simultaneously within and outside the system. So they can see you bigger, help the grandchildren make a bigger world. :- Doug.

We plow, the grandchildren plant and tend. :- Doug.

Use our counselor role to direct grandchildren’s thinking into fertile territory. :- Doug.

Is there a goal? No! There are people who need what elders can give. How will we know when we have gotten there? We will not and cannot: we will however know that we worked for the grandchildren. :- Doug.

What do I want elders to do? Take a bigger view of their role for the grandchildren. Take responsibility for the grandchildren. Tell stories, play games, give their spirits. See and accept their central roles in the future of the … Continue reading →

The three hundred year project for the grandchildren. :- Doug.

When I have an insight it is not wisdom, rather something to be shared with invitation that you share yours. For the grandchildren. :- Doug.